Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

87. What Do Narcissists Want, Why We Comply, and Why They Won’t Change with Elizabeth Miller (Psychotherapist)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on three topics related to narcissistic abuse: What do narcissists want? (01:23)
Why do we give them what they want? (11:10)
Why is it so unlikely that a narcissist will change? (26:55)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Elizabeth MillerThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Elizabeth Miller is a psychotherapist certified in treating personality disorders, specializing in treating narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). She also works with individuals who are or have been in a relationship with someone with NPD. In addition, she has worked with numerous couples and families to navigate the complicated process of divorce, parenting plans, and property division.Suggested ReadingsWhat Is Narcissistic Supply and Why Do They Need It So Badly?
Why Do Narcissists Feel Empty Inside?
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

86. Understanding Narcissistic Abuse from the Neuroscientific Perspective with Ann Betz

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on 5 topics related to narcissistic abuse:What happens in the brain when we experience abuse? You know, when someone physically hurts you, you might get a broken arm, a bruise… does something happen in the brain when somebody emotionally/psychologically abuses you? (01:43)
What are your thoughts on EMDR? Can it heal memories of abuse? Can you explain EMDR and its potential effectiveness from the neuroscience perspective? (16:15)
Can you speak about trauma bonds, how they form, and how to break them from the perspective of neuroscience? Are there some practical things that we can do to help our brains to break these powerful bonds? (23:22)
I am unable to carry out tasks I could have done before (like multitasking 8 things at once and enjoying it). I find myself staring at something I used to be able to do without thinking, it’s like I have a major brain fog. Can you explain if the abuse and manipulation that I went through is to blame for this and if yes, how? What has happened to my brain and how can I recover it? (38:42)
What is your opinion on “inherited family trauma.” Is there evidence of trauma imprinting its effects on the brains of future generations? If you believe there is evidence of this, what is the importance of dealing not only with your own personal trauma but also processing the trauma your parents and grandparents experienced and how does this look in practice? How do you process your parents and grandparents' trauma? (45:52)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Ann BetzThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Ann Betz co-founded BEabove Leadership and is an international speaker and trainer on the intersection of neuroscience, coaching, and human transformation. Ann speaks internationally on neuroscience, leadership, and coaching, and she excels at making the complexities of the brain come to life with depth, humor, and simplicity.Suggested ReadingsHow to Break a Trauma Bond with a Narcissist in 11 StepsPodcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

85. 5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Doubt by Alexandra Walsh (Counselor)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies for overcoming self-doubt: Build a healthy support network (03:38)
Practice reaffirming your own voice of who you are (11:03)
Recognize and understand the impact of self-doubt (18:30)
Separate confidence from narcissism (26:07)
Get to know you (31:30)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Alexandra WalshThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Alexandra Walsh is a licensed mental health counselor. She is the owner of the mental health group practice, The M.A.D. Therapy and creator of the mental health hub, The M.A.D. Beyond. She is mad about providing therapy to survivors of abuse. She has specialized training and experience working with people in narcissistic or pathological love relationships, navigating a relationship with a personality-disordered person, and healing from emotional, psychological, and narcissistic abuse. Free Downloadable ResourcesThe Affirmation Exercise for Overcoming Self-Doubt
Overcoming the Self-Doubt Bundle with Therapist Insights
Other Resources
Narcissistic Family Dynamics: Healing Family Wounds & Turning Pain Into Power (Ecourse) by Alexandra WalshSuggested Readings10 Ways to Trust Yourself After Narcissistic AbuseSuggested Podcast Episodes69. Steps to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse with Dr. Taylor Damiani
75. Strategies for Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

84. How to Emotionally Detach From the Narcissist Step 10 with Lucianne Gerrard (Registered Counselor)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? We've finally reached Step 10! Today we will focus on breadcrumbing and hoovering.Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Lucianne GerrardThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Lucianne Gerrard is a Registered Counselor and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.Free Downloadable ResourcesReleasing Intermittent Reinforcement & Mixed Messages (PDF)
Reassess Your Relationship and Discover Your Path Forward (PDF)
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Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

83. How to Emotionally Detach From the Narcissist Step 9 with Lucianne Gerrard (Registered Counselor)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? Today's discussion will focus on observing the behaviors of a narcissist from a distance.Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Lucianne GerrardThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Lucianne Gerrard is a Registered Counselor and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.'How to Emotionally Detach from the Narcissist' Series EpisodesStep 1
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Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

82. How to Emotionally Detach From the Narcissist Step 8 with Lucianne Gerrard (Registered Counselor)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, Lucianne will guide us through the power games and strategies narcissists often utilize to dominate relationship dynamics.Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Lucianne GerrardThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Lucianne Gerrard is a Registered Counselor and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.'How to Emotionally Detach from the Narcissist' Series EpisodesStep 1
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Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

81. How to Emotionally Detach From the Narcissist Step 7 with Lucianne Gerrard (Registered Counselor)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? Today we'll expose the hooks narcissistic individuals use to pull us back into relationships and interactions with them for their own benefit. Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Lucianne GerrardThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Lucianne Gerrard is a Registered Counselor and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.'How to Emotionally Detach from the Narcissist' Series EpisodesStep 1
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Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

80. How to Emotionally Detach From the Narcissist Step 6 with Lucianne Gerrard (Registered Counselor)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we dive into the all-important subject of setting boundaries.Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Lucianne GerrardThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Lucianne Gerrard is a Registered Counselor and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.Free Downloadable Resources7 Powerful Exercises That Can Help You Maintain the Boundaries That You Set With the Narcissist (PDF)'How to Emotionally Detach from the Narcissist' Series EpisodesStep 1
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Boundaries After a Pathological Relationship by Adelyn BirchPodcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

79. How to Emotionally Detach From the Narcissist Step 5 with Lucianne Gerrard (Registered Counselor)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we're zeroing in on rebuilding ourselves, whether we're currently experiencing narcissistic abuse or recovering from it.Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Lucianne GerrardThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Lucianne Gerrard is a Registered Counselor and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.'How to Emotionally Detach from the Narcissist' Series EpisodesStep 1
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Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

78. How to Emotionally Detach From the Narcissist Step 4 with Lucianne Gerrard (Registered Counselor)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on radically accepting that we cannot change the narcissistic individual.Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Lucianne GerrardThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Lucianne Gerrard is a Registered Counselor and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.'How to Emotionally Detach from the Narcissist' Series EpisodesStep 1
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Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com