Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

5 Strategies for Overcoming Fear of Being Alone with Robyn Reeves, Psychotherapist (Ep 111)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the fear of being alone that narcissistic abuse causes:Stop and reflect on what being alone means to you (03:22)
Pay attention to your inner dialogue and develop your "tagline" (11:48)
Start taking steps toward becoming more "self-full" (24:40)
Start building your distress tolerance for being alone with small steps (38:40)
Reconnect or rebuild your "village" (47:04)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Robyn ReevesThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Robyn Reeves is a Masters’ level Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) with experience in private practice and with open/closed support groups, working with adolescents, adults, couples and families. Her areas of focus include divorce, co-parenting, mediation, narcissist survival, schematic and inner child exploration and trauma and PTSD. Her approach to therapy combines person-centered, solution-focused and family systems theories. Robyn is known for her unique brand of analogies and metaphors to help create a ‘visual’ with which clients connect - she finds this method assists both with client’s uniquely individual endeavors as well as to identify common themes/patterns in which clients often don’t realize they are engaging.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Overcoming Helplessness with Chelsey Brooke Cole, Psychotherapist
Understanding and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Dr. Sara Spowart
Deep Dive into Your Core Beliefs with Lua Weatherdon, LCSW 
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5 Strategies for Overcoming Helplessness with Chelsey Cole, Psychotherapist (Ep 110)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the helplessness that narcissistic abuse causes:Identify what is happening in your relationship (02:29)
Set "silent boundaries" (05:54)
Set personally meaningful goals (11:19)
Differentiate between you and your triggers and become aware of your parts (15:21)
Learn how to communicate with the narcissist (27:38)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Chelsey Brooke ColeThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Chelsey Brooke Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, certified partner trauma therapist, coach, and speaker specializing in narcissistic abuse and relational trauma. She is the author of If Only I’d Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth. Chelsey’s content provides support to thousands of narcissistic abuse survivors each day through her thriving online community. You can learn more about working with Chelsey or her resources at chelseybrookecole.comFree ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunityMentioned Resources
If Only I’d Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth by Chelsey Brooke ColeSuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Overcoming Powerlessness with Dr. Alicia Rozycki (Psychologist)
Identifying and Addressing Trauma Responses with Morella Devost (Counselor)
5 Strategies for Overcoming Shame with Laura Bonk, Counselor
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

Narcissistic Fathers with Renee Fleming, LCSW (Ep 109)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on narcissistic fathers: Common traits of narcissistic fathers (01:51)
How having a narcissistic father impact an individual's sense of self-worth and self-esteem (14:14)
How children of narcissistic fathers internalize their father's behavior and beliefs, and how this affect their relationships with others (16:46)
How growing up with a narcissistic father contribute to an individual's tendency to engage in self-destructive behaviors or negative coping mechanisms (24:15)
Effective strategies for healing and recovery for individuals who have grown up with a narcissistic father (27:29)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Renee FlemingThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Renee specializes in supporting CPTSD & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. Having grown up in a family system with abuse & addiction, she understands how survivors are set up for additional adult trauma – often targeted later in life by other toxic individuals in friendships, romance, or work. Helping clients thaw from long term coping or shock, reclaim their birth right & connection to themselves, & release burdens & wounds is how she supports survivors. Many of her clients are high achieving women & men (superheroes & cycle breakers) who come to her for help with grief work, skill building, & professional or personal relationship challenges.    Her wish for her clients is to move from surviving & coping to healing & thriving – living a wholehearted, connected, authentic, embodied life is a gift of healing for each person & the collective. Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast EpisodesExploring Narcissistic Family Dynamics with Alisa Stamps, LCSW
Discussion About Narcissistic Mothers With Lucianne Gerrard
5 Strategies for Overcoming Guilt with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

Deep Dive into Your Core Beliefs with Lua Weatherdon, LCSW (Ep 108)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, Lua helps us identify the core beliefs that influence our daily lives, interactions, and relationships. She will guide us through a practice that allows us to recognize and soothe our negative core beliefs.Lua's centering practice to better access your core beliefs (03:35)
Understanding how core beliefs form and their impact on our lives (11:15)
The significant role of core beliefs in toxic relationships (23:43)
Lua's soothing practice to prepare for exploring your core beliefs (31:48)
Lua's step-by-step guide to exploring and soothing negative core beliefs (38:17)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Lua WeatherdonThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Lua Weatherdon is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with the Oregon Board of Licensed Social Workers. She has over fifteen years of experience working in mental health in a variety of settings such as domestic and sexual violence, residential treatment centers, home-based services, crisis intervention and stabilization, outpatient treatment, and schools. Lua is passionate about working with adults, children, adolescents and families, to address trauma and abuse, difficulties adjusting to major life changes, depression, anxiety, and also people struggling with a lack of balance or peace in their life.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Developing Positive Core Beliefs with CarrieAnn Cleveland, LMFT
Exploring Core Wounds, Fears, Beliefs, Values, and Hopes with Therapist Karina Ramdath
Identifying and Addressing Trauma Responses with Morella Devost (Counselor)
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

5 Strategies for Overcoming Guilt with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD (Ep 107)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the guilt that narcissistic abuse causes:Start using positive affirmations to form new neural pathways (05:30)
Understand how guilt is part of the grieving process and take time and space to grieve (11:06)
Understand how the role of culture affects your feelings of guilt (24:16)
Try out imaginary role playing exercises (34:01)
Assess if your values are coming from a healthy place or trauma (42:38)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Dr. Tanya HolthusThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Dr. Tanya Holthus is a licensed psychologist who enjoys working with a wide variety of clients and offers multiple services including therapy, coaching, and supervision. She specializes in healing trauma and helping people with many types of issues, including post-traumatic stress, attachment/connection, emotional/relational abuse, anxiety, depression, and relationship issues. She is most passionate about helping people overcome relationships involving narcissistic abuse and strengthening parent-child relationships. Dr. Holthus views things through a trauma lens and tends to weave this into all of her work. She provides psychoeducation, teaches how to navigate healthy boundaries, guides healing, and helps people gain clarity to bring peace in their life.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunityMentioned ResourcesOn Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be GoodSuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor)
5 Strategies for Overcoming Shame with Laura Bonk, Counselor 
Strategies for Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings
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Skills for a Healthier You after Narcissistic Abuse with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings (Ep 106)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on the most meaningful steps a person can take to improve various aspects in themselves after experiencing narcissistic abuse:How to improve radical acceptance (01:14)
How to improve emotional regulation (11:52)
How to improve adaptability (20:28)
How to improve self-efficacy (38:37)
How to improve problem-solving skills (44:00)
How to improve self-awareness (48:30)
How to improve social skills (53:57)
How to improve communication skills (58:51)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Cynthia EddingsThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Cynthia Eddings is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery. She is the author of ‘The Narcissism Recovery Journal: Prompts and Practices for Healing from Emotional Abuse’ and has been featured in publications including The Zoe Report and Woman’s World. Cynthia’s area of expertise stems from personal experiences. She understands the dynamics of narcissistic abuse from the perspective of having parents with high narcissistic traits and falling into the same patterns in adulthood. She enjoys working with clients who want to heal from narcissistic abuse, and she does so by helping them uncover their authentic selves. Free ResourcesGet Cynthia's Free Resource List!
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Suggested Podcast EpisodesStrategies for Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings
An Exploration of Narcissistic Traits: Examples of Superficial Charm, Intense Mood Swings, and More with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings
An Exploration of Narcissistic Traits: Examples of Entitlement, Envy, Impulsivity, and More with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings
Mentioned Resources
The Choice: Embrace the Possible by Dr. Edith EgerPodcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

5 Strategies for Overcoming Shame with Laura Bonk, Counselor (Ep 105)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the shame that narcissistic abuse creates:Start keeping "a shame journal" (03:20)
Ask yourself challenging questions (11:25)
The opposite action intervention (22:44)
Build a healthy support network (33:44)
Ritual reprogramming (39:59)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Laura BonkThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Laura Bonk is a counselor and her clinical experience and areas of focus include, but are not limited to: trauma (of any form), narcissistic abuse, depression, anxiety, body image, personality disorders, attachment and relationship issues, identity development, and major life transitions. Laura has a particular interest in helping process thoughts and feelings related to past traumatic experiences. Laura's passion is to walk alongside others as they work to understand their story, discover the wounds that life has created, and experience healing through the therapeutic relationship.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor)
5 Strategies for Reconnecting with Your Core Values with Jenni McBride McNamara, LMFT
5 Strategies for Developing Positive Core Beliefs with CarrieAnn Cleveland, LMFT
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

5 Strategies for Reconnecting with Your Core Values with Jenni McBride McNamara, LMFT (Ep 104)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to reconnect with your core values after experiencing narcissistic abuse:Reidentify your core values (04:02)
Listen to your body (10:42)
Observe people who are your "values models" (18:33)
Engage your senses in your values (25:28)
Practice your values in the world (33:05)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Jenni McBride McNamaraThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Jenni McBride McNamara is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and she specializes in post-divorce issues related to emotional, physical, and financial attachment, as well as decoupling counseling. Her approach includes looking at the ways you are feeling "stuck" through emotional, physical, and financial attachments to a stressful relationship. She is also the author of many books, including "Outsmart Your High-Stress Divorce: 39 Practical Tips for Reducing Conflict and Empowering Yourself Today" and "Child Less Parent: "Snapshots" of Parental Alienation."Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor)
5 Strategies for Overcoming Powerlessness with Dr. Alicia Rozycki (Psychologist)
5 Strategies for Developing Positive Core Beliefs with CarrieAnn Cleveland, LMFT
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

Exploring Narcissistic Family Dynamics with Alisa Stamps, LCSW (Ep 103)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on narcissistic family dynamics:Narcissistic supply in a narcissistic family system (01:22)
How narcissistic parents manipulate their children into giving them narcissistic supply (08:14)
Why does it take the children of narcissistic parents so long to realize that they come from a narcissistic family of origin? (13:03)
Why don't narcissistic parents change for their children? Why do narcissistic parents only view their children as sources of narcissistic supply? (18:34)
The most common signs that indicate a person comes from a narcissistic family of origin (20:42)
The different types of narcissistic parents (25:46)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Alisa StampsThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Alisa Stamps is a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book, THE GASLIGHTING RECOVERY JOURNAL. Alisa specializes in working with adult children of narcissists, and is the founder of the support and recovery group for these individuals, entitled “Shattering the Mirror”. She also has experience treating eating disorders and complex trauma. Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor)
5 Strategies for Overcoming Powerlessness with Dr. Alicia Rozycki (Psychologist)
5 Strategies for Developing Positive Core Beliefs with CarrieAnn Cleveland, LMFT
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

5 Strategies for Developing Positive Core Beliefs with CarrieAnn Cleveland, LMFT (Ep 102)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to develop positive core beliefs:Using EMDR to develop positive core beliefs (01:08)
"I know my truth" -strategy (27:18)
Practice mindfulness and gratitude (37:34)
5 step process to install more positive core beliefs (51:42)
Narrative therapy (01:01:13)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & CarrieAnn ClevelandThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.CarrieAnn Cleveland is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and she provides therapy for people with a range of issues, including chronic and/or complex trauma, narcissistic abuse, high conflict divorce and custody issues, post-separation abuse, intimacy/relationship issues, and much more. She believes the final developmental stage is the experience of self-acceptance, which includes the ability to set boundaries, speak your truth, and ask for what you need – to feel comfortable within yourself so that you can be unapologetically you, and to live authentically, vibrantly, and joyously.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor)
5 Strategies for Overcoming Powerlessness with Dr. Alicia Rozycki (Psychologist)
5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Doubt by Alexandra Walsh (Counselor)
Mentioned Resources
Untamed by Glenn Doyle
Tina Swithin's website (One Mom's Battle)
The Power of Mindfulness: What You Practice Grows Stronger | Shauna Shapiro | TEDxWashingtonSquare
The Work of Byron Katie
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com