Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

Treating Narcissistic Personality Disorder with Olga Leonova, LPC (Ep 127)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
In this episode, we focus on the treatment of Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
What are the different/most typical stages of healing NPD?
What modality of therapy or treatment do you employ when aiding individuals with NPD or high narcissistic traits?
Could you talk about the three most challenging obstacles in treating NPD or individuals with high narcissistic traits? And how do you navigate these obstacles?
Could you share your experiences regarding the “average” outcomes when treating people with NPD or high narcissistic traits and perhaps discuss the most “successful” case you’ve encountered in your career?
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More Information About the Host & Olga Leonova
The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.
Olga Leonova is a Licensed Professional Counselor from Oregon. She has been helping her clients heal from trauma, sexual addiction, and the life impacts of other problematic sexual behaviors and choices they have made that led them to feel shame, anxiety and depression.
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Guilt and Narcissistic Abuse with Mark Shoaf, LPC (Ep 126)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
In this episode, we focus on guilt and narcissistic abuse:
What does guilt-tripping mean and what is the motivation behind a narcissist’s tendency to make others feel guilty? 
How can I recognize when a narcissist is trying to make me feel guilty?
How can I set boundaries with a narcissist to prevent them from making me feel guilty?
What are the long-term effects of a narcissist’s guilt-tripping behavior on their relationships?
Why do some people fall for a narcissist’s guilt-tripping tactics and blame themselves for everything?
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More Information About the Host & Mark Shoaf
The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.
Mark Shoaf is a Licensed Professional Counselor from Pennsylvania. Mark’s professional focus includes working with individuals, couples, and families affected by depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder and personality disorders, stress, relationship conflicts, drug, and other psychological challenges. His goal is to bring help, hope, and direction to clients through the therapeutic process by the use an integrative approach – which means that he combines the best practice from a range of therapeutic approaches, primarily: Cognitive, Psychodynamic Therapy, Gestalt, and Rational Emotive Therapies.
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How to Set Boundaries with a Narcissist
5 Strategies for Overcoming Guilt with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD (Ep 107)
10 Tactics Narcissists Use to Make You Feel Guilty
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How to Overcome People Pleasing with Hannah Alderete, LMHC (Ep 125)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome people-pleasing that narcissistic abuse causes:
Enhance your awareness and question your fears (03:23)
Slow down and focus on your breath (11:08)
Focus on your body posture (17:52)
Simplify and go slow (29:00)
Get really solid in your "why" (41:02)
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More Information About the Host & Hannah Alderete
The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.
Hannah Alderete is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor from Washington. She compassionately helps adult children of narcissistic parents who struggle with people pleasing, social anxiety, chronic self-doubt, and guilt/shame, find their authentic voice so that they can shed all the ways they’ve had to hide in order to survive.
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Suggested Podcast Episodes
5 Strategies for Overcoming Fear of Being Alone with Robyn Reeves, Psychotherapist
5 Strategies for Overcoming Powerlessness with Jessica Hass, LCSW
Deep Dive into Your Core Beliefs with Lua Weatherdon, LCSW
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How to Overcome Helplessness with Cindy Guerrero, LCSW (Ep 124)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the helplessness that narcissistic abuse causes:.
Validate Your Feelings (00:50)
“What Is This Showing Me About Me?” (07:16)
Setting Boundaries (13:36)
How Are You Holding Onto the Person, Relationship, or the Situation? (20:24)
Who Are You? What Do You Like? What Lights You Up? (25:40)
 
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More Information About the Host & Cindy Guerrero
Cindy Guerrero is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, 200hr yoga teacher, Shaman, and Reiki Master Teacher. She is a holistic healer, which means she assesses and works with individuals on the four levels - Emotional, Physical, Mental, and Energetic. Cindy provides individual, couples, family, and group therapy and works with adults and children. She specializes in working with people who experience trauma, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, anger, and chronic health conditions. She also specializes in Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and PTSD. Additionally, she is an EMDRIA-approved EMDR therapist and Licensed Clinical Supervisor for Clinical Interns entering the mental health field.
 
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Suggested Podcast Episodes
5 Strategies for Overcoming Fear of Being Alone with Robyn Reeves, Psychotherapist
5 Strategies for Overcoming Powerlessness with Jessica Hass, LCSW
Deep Dive into Your Core Beliefs with Lua Weatherdon, LCSW
 
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

5 Strategies for Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD (Ep 123)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the emotional dysregulation that narcissistic abuse causes:Proactive coping skills (01:39)
Reactive coping skills (09:05)
Top-down approach for regulation (24:32)
Bottom-up approach for regulation (34:06)
Distinguishing parts to respond more mindfully in the present (45:28)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Dr. Tanya HolthusThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Dr. Tanya Holthus is a licensed psychologist who enjoys working with a wide variety of clients and offers multiple services including therapy, coaching, and supervision. She specializes in healing trauma and helping people with many types of issues, including post-traumatic stress, attachment/connection, emotional/relational abuse, anxiety, depression, and relationship issues. She is most passionate about helping people overcome relationships involving narcissistic abuse and strengthening parent-child relationships. Dr. Holthus views things through a trauma lens and tends to weave this into all of her work. She provides psychoeducation, teaches how to navigate healthy boundaries, guides healing, and helps people gain clarity to bring peace in their life.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Overcoming Guilt with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD 
Identifying and Addressing Trauma Responses with Morella Devost, Counselor
Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation, Relational Trauma, and the Addictive Component of a Trauma Bond with LCSW Ellen Biros
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

Exploring Sibling Dynamics in Narcissistic Families with Amanda Bailey, Therapist (Ep 122)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, we focus on the complex sibling relationships within a narcissistic family dynamic: How should I approach/explain to my sibling who thinks that our family is totally healthy, that our parent is narcissistic and that our upbringing wasn't healthy? (01:06)
 How can I work through my anger and resentment towards my sibling who was the golden child in our narcissistic family of origin? (15:04)
How can I approach my sibling who has been treated differently and unfairly by our narcissistic parent (they were the scapegoat and I was the golden child) and to improve our relationship? We are now adults and do not live at home anymore but we are not that close. (19:49)
Can a sibling relationship impacted by a narcissistic parent be repaired, and what are some factors that may influence the potential for healing and growth in this situation? (25:22)
What are some factors that may indicate that the relationship with a sibling cannot be repaired? (28:20)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Amanda BaileyThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Amanda is a mental health therapist and coach who helps people heal from the effects of destructive relationships; teaching them to rebuild trust in themselves and handle difficult dynamics with confidence. She is based in Portland, Maine, but works with clients online throughout the US as well as internationally.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Readings8 Ways That Narcissists Treat Their Siblings
How Do Narcissists Treat Their Children? (10 Ways)
Suggested Podcast EpisodesExploring Narcissistic Family Dynamics with Alisa Stamps, LCSW 
Narcissistic Fathers with Renee Fleming, LCSW
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Never Be Manipulated Again with Karina Ramdath, Registered Social Worker (Ep 121)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, you will learn how to protect yourself from the following manipulation tactics:Public sharing (01:23)
Crossing boundaries (11:51)
Non-consensual recording (21:43)
Petty theft (34:21)
Fast talking (42:18)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Karina RamdathThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Karina Ramdath is a compassionate, skilled therapist, who works with survivors of childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and other complex mental health concerns. Karina’s professional focus is to support people by validating their experiences and acknowledging their resilience.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast EpisodesNever Be Manipulated Again: Rewriting History, Countering, Lying, Social Circle Manipulation, Pseudomutuality with Dr. Taylor Damiani
Never Be Manipulated Again: Just Enough, Blaming, Public Humiliation, Should-ing With Dr. Maya Kaye
Never Be Manipulated Again: Conversation Domination, Unsolicited and Sneaky Advice, Pity, and Ordering With Psychotherapist Fabian Wander
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Guided Deep Breathing Exercise: Letting Go of Self-Doubt (Ep 120)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?This guided deep breathing exercise helps you combat the self-doubt that narcissistic abuse causes. Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the HostThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast EpisodesGuided Imagery Exercise: The Garden of Self-Discovery
5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Doubt by Alexandra Walsh, Counselor
5 Strategies for Overcoming Anxiety with Anna Graham, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor
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5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward the Narcissist with Ellen Biros, LCSW (Ep 119)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the anger toward the narcissist, flying monkeys and enablers:Embrace your anger (02:43)
Let go of the identity of being the wronged one or the victim (11:14)
Practice radical acceptance (17:49)
Stay away from "all or nothing" thinking (38:06)
Avoid "winner or loser" distinctions (46:58)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Ellen BirosThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Ellen is a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the assessment and treatment of individuals with personality disorders, substance abuse issues, and emotional regulation problems. Ellen has spent over 15 years helping clients identify and recover from emotional abuse and manipulation. She is the author of 'Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter’s Workbook.'Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunityOther Resources
Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter's Workbook by Ellen BirosSuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward Yourself with Ellen Biros, LCSW
Using J.A.D.E. to Protect Yourself from Narcissists with Ellen Biros (LCSW)
Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation, Relational Trauma, and the Addictive Component of a Trauma Bond with LCSW Ellen Biros
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward Yourself with Ellen Biros, LCSW (Ep 118)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the anger toward yourself after narcissistic abuse:Check-in with your emotions (03:06)
The four square breathing (08:38)
Thought-stopping (20:22)
Grounding (29:38)
Self-compassion pause (35:29)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Ellen BirosThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Ellen is a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the assessment and treatment of individuals with personality disorders, substance abuse issues, and emotional regulation problems. Ellen has spent over 15 years helping clients identify and recover from emotional abuse and manipulation. She is the author of 'Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter’s Workbook.' All the strategies Ellen will share in this episode are from her workbook. Despite its title, the book offers detailed strategies for anyone who has experienced narcissistic abuse, whether in a family dynamic or with a romantic partner exhibiting narcissistic traits. Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunityOther Resources
Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter's Workbook by Ellen BirosSuggested Podcast EpisodesUsing J.A.D.E. to Protect Yourself from Narcissists with Ellen Biros (LCSW)
Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation, Relational Trauma, and the Addictive Component of a Trauma Bond with LCSW Ellen Biros
5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor)
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com