Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

3. Unpacking Narcissism With Angela Avery

In this episode Angela Avery, a licensed professional counselor, will answer five questions from our Narcissistic Abuse Support Platform Community members:
* How do you overcome the sense of loss after a narcissistic relationship? I feel like I wasted so much of my life.
* The narcissist makes me feel really bad about setting boundaries. He calls me controlling, arrogant, childish, and so on. I know that he is just manipulating me but it still makes me second guess myself. How can I overcome this?
* I want revenge on the narcissist, does that make me a narcissist? What are some healthy forms of revenge that I can take without being narcissistic?
* What are some of the ways that narcissists manipulate us into being comfortable being powerless and vulnerable?
* How can I deal with my kid who is lashing out at me to get the love of their narcissistic parent?
Angela Avery, LPC, NCC, CCATP is a board certified Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery, high conflict divorce and teenage girl experiences.
As a mother, and a narcissistic abuse survivor, she has first-hand knowledge of the toll it takes on a person’s mental, physical and spiritual well-being. She believes healing is possible and hopes to be a truth-teller, opportunity-seeker and life-rebuilder on your journey towards the future.
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

2. Discussion About Narcissistic Mothers With Lucianne Gerrard

In this episode Lucianne Gerrard, a registered counsellor and narcissistic abuse specialist will answer the following seven questions from our Narcissistic Abuse Support Platform community:
* I have a narcissistic mother that I love so much and I feel like I can’t let go of her. How did you work past the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that you had invested in your mother? How were you able to acknowledge that someone so important to you was abusive and no longer could have a significant role in your life?
* I have been using the Gray Rock Method on my mom for 4 months now and I feel so guilty for doing it. How were you able to maintain the boundaries that you set with your narcissistic mother?
* I know that I should go No Contact with my narcissistic parents, but my self-esteem is so low! The thought of cutting them out of my life makes me feel disgusted with myself and ashamed. How did you deal with low-self esteem when protecting yourself from narcissistic abuse?
* I think the hardest thing for me is the Gaslighting. It makes everything so confusing. I don’t know if I am seeing things clearly or not. How did you spot the manipulative tactics that narcissists use?
* How did you take back your power? I feel like my narcissistic parents have so much control over me and I don’t know what to do.
* I feel like I am not ready to fully restrain myself from engaging in significant interactions with my narcissistic family, let alone go no contact. What were some smaller boundaries that you set with your narcissistic mother that helped you get to a place where you felt comfortable setting bigger boundaries?
* How did you stop being afraid of the narcissist? I don’t mean afraid because they might physically hurt you. I mean afraid of being discarded, shut out from the family, shamed and humiliated publicly, and so on.
Raised by a strict, narcissistic mother, Lucianne Gerrard was trained to always put her mother first, then everyone else second, and never think about herself or her own needs (because that was selfish). 
With her foundation of personal experience of NA (narcissistic abuse) in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

1. How to Escape a Physically Abusive Relationship Advice From Janine Hayter

If you need help escaping a physically abusive relationship, please click HERE to find people and organizations near you that can help you!
Suggested Reading: How to Know if a Narcissist Will Kill You (16 Signs to Keep You Safe)
In this episode Janine Hayter, a psychodynamic, CBT therapist, and narcissistic abuse specialist will answer the following question:
* "Hey there! I've been in an abusive marriage for three years. I've gotten really good at managing the emotional abuse but I'm wondering what advice you have for escaping the physical abuse?"
Janine Hayter qualified as a psychodynamic psychotherapist in 2011 and then went on to gain a further qualification in 2020 as a CBT therapist. Her interest in narcissistic abuse came from her own personal experience of a 14 year marriage to what she believed was a narcissist, and the damage the marriage had on her physical and emotional health.
Through research and knowledge she was able to understand what happened to her and why it happened. She now uses this knowledge and experience to help other survivors who are either still living with their abuser and are fearful and confused or they have left and are now trying to put back the pieces of their life and find themselves again.
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com