Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

13. Unpacking Narcissism With Nicki Paull

In this episode, Nicki Paull, an Australian Professional Counsellor and Therapist with expertise in Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome recovery, will answer five questions from our Community:
* I am three weeks away from going No Contact with my abuser. I can't use the Gray Rock Method because it triggers narcissistic rage. A close friend of mine told me that she provides her abuser with small amounts of admiration to reduce the amount of abuse she is experiencing and told me it has worked. Are there any other sneaky techniques like this that I can try?
* I fall for the love bombing and honeymoon phase every single time. What are some boundaries that I can set with myself to protect me from this powerful form of manipulation?
* I am trying to break my trauma bond right now. What are some of the best ways that I can take care of my mental and physical health during this tough period in my life?
* How does a narcissist’s behavior change as they get older and less mobile? Do they get more abusive or do they start to become more empathic?
* What are some of the signs that I can look out for that indicate my abuser's behavior is getting more violent? I know it might sound like a silly question but when I am in the thick of it, I can't tell, it is all a blur.
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12. Unpacking Narcissism With Karina Ramdath

In this episode, Karina Ramdath, a Registered Social Worker and Therapist, will answer six questions from our Community:
* How can we protect ourselves from gaslighting? I know that we can’t control the narcissist’s behavior, but how can we stop the gaslighting from taking control of our minds?
* How do I create a safety plan? What are the most important things that I need to take into consideration?
* What do I need to do to get closure from my ex narcissist? I don’t mean getting closure from them. I just mean getting closure from the situation, moving on, and healing.
* My biggest weakness is rumination. I am constantly ruminating about my narcissistic ex. Why does rumination occur and how can I stop it from happening?
* I am battling flying monkeys right now and it is destroying my mental health. What are some things that I should do to protect myself from them and why?
* Why do narcissists use projection? I can’t bring myself to accept that he honestly believes that I am the one who was cheating, or I am the one with the gambling problem. It is the most delusional thing that I’ve seen!
Karina Ramdath is a compassionate, skilled therapist, who works with survivors of childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and other complex mental health concerns. Karina’s professional focus is to support people by validating their experiences and acknowledging their resilience.
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11. Questions About Healthy Relationships With Janet Bayramyan

In this episode, Janet Bayramyan, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Trauma Therapist, will answer five questions from our community:
* What are some of the key characteristics of a healthy relationship?
* Every relationship has arguments/confrontations. How can you tell the difference between abusive arguments/confrontations and healthy arguments/confrontations
* What are the 5 boundaries that every healthy relationship has?
* After being in an abusive relationship for so long, I find myself feeling uncomfortable and wanting to distance myself in a healthy relationship because of how unfamiliar they feel. How can I adjust myself before I lose someone who truly cares about me?
* I often find myself dropping good people out of my life because of the abuse I experienced in the past. For example, last week I distanced myself from a coworker because she questioned my perspective of things and I felt like I was being gaslighted. Looking back, I wasn’t being gaslighted, she was just voicing her opinion. How can I prevent this from happening again?
Janet believes everyone has a powerful story, and she also believes in everyone’s inner resiliency and self-empowerment. Janet believes that everyone who has experienced life’s ups and downs are incredibly resilient, and she likes to see herself as a guide to support in getting to a place of inner acceptance and harmony. 
Janet Bayramyan is an EMDR certified psychotherapist. She is also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR, the Havening Techniques, Brainspotting, and other trauma modalities.
Using the lens of EMDR, Janet helps clients understand and process the impact of trauma and move through states of protection and connection in their nervous system to establish an embodied sense of safety.
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10. Unpacking Narcissism With Nick Kerry

In this episode, Nick Kerry, a qualified psychotherapist who specializes in narcissistic/codependent relationships, will answer five questions from our community:
* I plan on breaking up with my narcissistic girlfriend soon. What should I expect? How do narcissists react to breakups?
* Do you have any advice for surviving a narcissistic work environment? I can't just quit, I really need the money right now!
* Why does my narcissistic father always start huge arguments right around my birthday? Do they need supply so badly that they can't handle a day of me being celebrated?
* Why types of post divorce abuse should I be prepared for if I ignore my narcissist ex's hoovering attempts
* My daughter has been manipulated by my mother into turning against me. How can I rebuild my relationship with my daughter as quickly as possible?
Over the last ten years, Nick has specialized in psychological support for those experiencing narcissistic abuse. 
Nick has developed a professional online mentoring service, delivered by people who know what it is to have experienced the emotional and psychological traumas of narcissistic abuse. Having learned to manage their own traumatizing histories, as well as having completed the Narc & Co mentoring training program, they are uniquely placed to support his clients in their recovery and healing. All mentoring work will be supported and supervised by Nick Kerry.
His website offers information which, hopefully, will help you to decide if you can benefit from the service on offer. He believes that though traumatic life-experience is created in a relationship, nevertheless it can be healed by a relationship based on mutual trust, respect, and learning.
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9. Everything About Trauma Bonding With Karina Ramdath

In this episode Karina Ramdath, a registered social worker and therapist, will answer five questions about trauma bonding:
* What is a trauma bond and how are they created?
* How can you tell if you are in a trauma bonded relationship?
* Once you realize that you're in a trauma bonded relationship, what are the first, and most important, steps that you should take to break the bond?
* If you had to recommend three things that someone can do every single day to cope with the painful thoughts, feelings, and emotions that being in a trauma bonded relationship creates, what would they be and why?
* What are the short and long term effects of trauma bonding?
Karina Ramdath is a compassionate, skilled therapist, who works with survivors of childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and other complex mental health concerns.
Karina’s professional focus is to support people by validating their experiences andacknowledging their resilience. Karina brings a wealth of experience from hospital inpatient mental health, community and rural addictions and mental health, urgent care / emergency care services, and international community work to supporting people across the lifespan and from various ethnic and cultural backgrounds.
You can contact Karina via email or phone:
* info@sweetvioletcounselling.com
* 403-918-2342
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8. Unpacking Narcissism With Natalie Feinblatt

In this episode Natalie Feinblatt, a licensed clinical psychologist, will answer five questions from our community:
* What advice do you have for those practicing radical acceptance? I find it so hard to just accept that what I experienced is abuse. How can I take small steps towards radical acceptance every day?
* I was the scapegoat of my family. How do I deal with the grief and shame that comes with that role?
* What are some of the reasons that people get stuck in narcissistic relationships?
* How can I manage the anger and grief that I have towards my non-narcissistic parent who was an enabler my entire childhood
* Why do narcissists hate when you go to therapy? Whenever I go to therapy it starts a huge fight!
Natalie's main specialties are helping people heal from addictions and trauma. A subset of her trauma work is assisting those who have been in cults, high demand groups, abusive churches, and other situations involving coercive control and/or narcissistic abuse. Dr Feinblatt can use EMDR and/or Brainspotting in her trauma work with clients. 
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7. Discussion About Parental Alienation With Sarah Finch

In this episode Sarah Finch, an Integrative Counsellor and Narcissist Abuse Specialist, will answer seven questions from our community:
* What is parental alienation and how does it work?
* I am going to be divorcing a narcissist this year. What are the warning signs of parental alienation that I should look out for?
* How can you reconnect with your child after parental alienation?
* Do you remember the effect that parental alienation had on your child? I would like to know more about what parental alienation does to a child.
* How can I manage the painful emotions/feelings/thoughts that parental alienation creates?
* Did your child ever share with you about how the alienation made him feel?
* How did you get the parental alienation to stop?
Sarah has experience working with women who have suffered trauma, addiction, domestic abuse and has a good understanding of the dynamic between the narcissist and the co-dependent in relationships.
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6. Unpacking Narcissism With Nicki Paull

In this episode, Nicki Paull, an Australian Professional Counsellor and Therapist with expertise in Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome recovery, will answer five questions from our Narcissistic Abuse Support Platform Community:
* How can I deal with my narcissistic in-laws? My wife isn’t a narcissist but her parents are just awful. I don’t want to just throw all this information at my wife at once. I just want to help her heal.
* One of the problems that I run into when setting boundaries is that people tell me that my standards are too high. How can I prevent these kinds of comments from causing me to doubt myself?
* Even though I know all about gaslighting, I still fall for it! Do you have any tips for dealing with gaslighting?
* I have been in a financially abusive relationship for years and I want to escape. How can I hide money from the narcissist when they have full control of the family finances?
* What are the most reliable red flags that I can search for in people to steer clear of narcissistic abuse?
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5. Unpacking Narcissism With Karina Ramdath

In this episode, Karina Ramdath, a Registered Social Worker and Therapist, will answer five questions from our Narcissistic Abuse Support Platform Community members:
* How can I work towards becoming indifferent to the narcissist in my life?
* How can I protect myself in couples therapy with the narcissist? Everything that I say gets used against me later on. I don’t want therapy to be ANOTHER place that I get minimized.
* How can I stop poking at the emotional wounds the narcissist left? It is like as soon as I am doing better I have to look at an old photograph. 
* How can I escape financial abuse? The narc in my life has full control of the family finances. I have a job but he has access to my account.  What steps would you recommend that I take to get out of this situation? 
* The abuse that I have experienced has caused me to overeat to deal with my emotions, how can I change this behavior?
Karina Ramdath is a compassionate, skilled therapist, who works with survivors of childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and other complex mental health concerns. Karina’s professional focus is to support people by validating their experiences and acknowledging their resilience.
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

4. Unpacking Narcissism With Janet Bayramyan

In this episode, Janet Bayramyan, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Trauma Therapist, will answer five questions from our Narcissistic Abuse Support Platform Community members:
* The narcissist in my life always gets away with his abuse. How can I manage the injustice of narcissistic relationships?
* I’m not sure if it is rumination, fear, anxiety, or what but all I can talk about is the narcissist. I haven’t seen her in a year but I can’t stop talking about her. Even my family has pointed out this problem. How can I fix it?
* The narcissist in my life always tricks me into doing something and then shames me for it. How can I avoid this dynamic?
* I have started dating again. I am wondering how I can tell the difference between love bombing and a healthy and passionate connection.
* The narcissist in my life always starts arguments before we go to sleep. How can I stop him from depriving me of sleep?
Janet believes everyone has a powerful story, and she also believes in everyone’s inner resiliency and self-empowerment. Janet believes that everyone who has experienced life’s ups and downs are incredibly resilient, and she likes to see herself as a guide to support in getting to a place of inner acceptance and harmony. 
Janet Bayramyan is an EMDR certified psychotherapist. She is also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR, the Havening Techniques, Brainspotting, and other trauma modalities.
Using the lens of EMDR, Janet helps clients understand and process the impact of trauma and move through states of protection and connection in their nervous system to establish an embodied sense of safety.
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com