Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

24. Narcissism At Work With Lynn Catalano

Are you having a tough time figuring out if you're working with a narcissist? (02:47)Do you know how to deal with a narcissist at work? (09:52)Do you know why do narcissists use triangulation in the workplace and how to protect yourself from it? (15:43)Are you wondering why are narcissists often in leadership roles in the workplace? (21:20)Are you wondering what signs you should be on the lookout for to spot a narcissistic work environment? (25:03)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Lynn Catalano will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Lynn CatalanoLynn helps people identify, deal with, and recover from narcissistic abuse through her online mini-training and 1:1 coaching. She is also an international speaker, sharing stages in South Africa, Berlin, and the United States. She has spoken to audiences large and small. She is the author of the book “Wrecking Ball Relationships: How to Identify, Live With or Leave the Narcissist in Your Life“.Suggested ReadingsHow Do Narcissists Act in Public?
How to Spot a Narcissist at Work
How to Expose a Narcissist in the Workplace

23. Unpacking Narcissism With Lucianne Gerrard

Do you know what are the most important things that you should do to support someone who is experiencing narcissistic abuse? (02:08)Are you wondering if narcissists withhold intimacy on purpose? (04:44)Do you know what is intimacy avoidance? (11:07)Do you know how do narcissists react when someone triggers their feelings of shame? (17:33)Are you wondering what should yo know about narcissism if you are working in a narcissistic environment? (23:29)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Lucianne Gerrard will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Lucianne GerrardRaised by a strict, narcissistic mother, Lucianne Gerrard was trained to always put her mother first, then everyone else second, and never think about herself or her own needs (because that was selfish). With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.Suggested ReadingsHow to Support Someone in a Narcissistic Relationship
Do Narcissists Enjoy Intimacy?
Do Narcissists Ever Feel Ashamed?
Related Podcast EpisodesNarcissism At Work With Lynn Catalano

22. Toxic and Healthy Relationships With Carolanne Marcantonio

Are you wondering what are the most important boundaries you should set in a romantic relationship? (02:03)Are you wondering how to create healthy boundaries in a romantic relationship? (05:32)Are you wondering how to figure out someone else's boundaries? (13:40)Do you know what are some healthy forms of intimacy? (18:34)Do you know what are some of the warning signs to look out for in the bedroom? (23:12)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Carolanne Marcantonio will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Carolanne MarcantonioCarolanne Marcantonio LCSW, SIFI, CST is the co-creator of the sex therapy association Wise Therapy located in New York City. Wise Therapy is a LGBTQIA+, poly and kink affirmative Sex Therapy association. Carolanne provides therapy to couples individuals and polycules. She is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST). Carolanneearned her Master's degree in Clinical Social Work from the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in Manhattan. 

21. Unpacking Narcissism With Dr K-P

Are you wondering how to overcome helplessness, powerlessness, and indecisiveness? (02:18)Do you know what are the signs that someone is gaslighting you? (11:06)Do you know why do narcissists bait you? (14:05)Are you wondering how should you respond to a baiting narcissist? (15:30)Do you know what are some of the most important things that you should do to support someone who is experiencing narcissistic abuse? (22:38)Are you wondering what are some of the most important boundaries that you should set with a narcissist? (26:17)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Dr. K-P will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. K-PDr. Karen Kuemerle-Pinillos is a bilingual-bicultural, Spanish-English, PhD Level Clinician, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), researcher, advocate, and coach. She has had the privilege to be in the mental health field for 21 years serving individuals, couples, and families in different settings such as inpatient treatment, intensive outpatient substance abuse treatment, intensive at home family therapy, outpatient individual, and couples therapy. She is currently serving individuals, couples, and families in her private practice.ResourcesGuide to Setting Boundaries With a Narcissist
The 6 Types of Narcissistic Baiting
The 6 Types of Gaslighting
Suggested ReadingsWhy Do Narcissists Bait You?
How to Respond to Narcissistic Baiting
How to Support Someone in a Narcissistic Relationship
What Are Some Boundaries You Can Set With a Narcissist?

19. Unpacking Narcissism With Lucianne Gerrard

Have you rejected a narcissist's hoovering multiple times but they still try to hoover you back? (02:11)Do you know the difference between gaslighting and someone just disagreeing with you? (05:34)Are you wondering how to safely detach yourself emotionally from the narcissist in your life? (09:58)Are you unsure what is scapegoating in a family setting and would want to hear some examples of it? (19:38)Are you wondering how to spot narcissist's projections and not to internalize them? (25:03)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Lucianne Gerrard will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Lucianne GerrardLucianne Gerrard is a Registered Counselor and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.ResourcesA Complete Guide to Six Types of GaslightingSuggested ReadingsHow to Deal With a Narcissist Who Is Hoovering
What Is Scapegoating In a Family?
How Do You Know When a Narcissist Is Projecting?

18. Unpacking Narcissism With Natalie Feinblatt

Do you know how do narcissists use mirroring to construct a positive self-perception? (02:11)Are you wondering if aging and becoming less and less independent is triggering for narcissists? (06:15)Do you know why does hoovering work? (11:08)Are you wondering how to deal with the honeymoon phase with a narcissist? (18:25)Do you know why do narcissists gaslight? (22:00)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Dr. Natalie Feinblatt will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. Natalie FeinblattNatalie Feinblatt is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Natalie's main specialties are helping people heal from addictions and trauma. A subset of her trauma work is assisting those who have been in cults, high demand groups, abusive churches, and other situations involving coercive control and/or narcissistic abuse. Dr. Feinblatt can use EMDR and/or Brainspotting in her trauma work with clients. ResourcesFive Types of Hoovering GuideSuggested ReadingsHow Do Narcissists Use Mirroring?
Do Narcissists Get Worse as They Get Older?
How to Deal With a Narcissist Who Is Hoovering
Why Do Narcissists Gaslight?

17. Toxic and Healthy Relationships With Dennae Dumas

In this episode Dennaé Dumas, a Licensed Master Social Worker, will answer five questions from our Community:
* How do you learn to trust yourself again after being in a toxic relationship?
* I don’t want to ruin my marriage but my past experience with abuse is haunting me. How do I keep this healthy relationship alive while healing from a toxic one?
* Why does being in a healthy relationship after a toxic one feel so hard? Are my expectations corrupted?
* I know I made the right decision by leaving. She was narcissistic and our relationship was toxic for so long. But I am just curious, can toxic relationships ever work?
* What are some signs that a relationship is broken beyond repair?
Dennaé Dumas holds both a master’s degree in Clinical Social Work and a Master of Business Administration from Columbia University. She specializes in sex and couples’ psychotherapy. 
Dennaé is a culturally competent, trauma-informed psychotherapist who believes in a collaborative therapeutic relationship. She works with individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships using a holistic approach to psychological and emotional wellness. Her clinical methods pull from many treatment modalities including CBT, DBT, IFS, EFT, IMAGO, Gottman Method, mindfulness, trauma-informed practices, somatic treatments, and psychodynamic psychotherapy to offer the best care possible for her clients. 
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

15. Unpacking Narcissism With Conor Deeney

In this episode Conor Deeney, psychotherapist, trainer, and consultant, will answer four questions from our community:
* My biggest struggle is dealing with hoovering. Every time it happens it triggers the positive memories that I have with the narcissist and my brain begins to justify all of the abuse. Besides going no contact, what can I do to stop justifying the abuse and falling for the hoovering attempts?
* I am in the process of breaking my trauma bond. What are 5-10 signs that I can look out for that indicate that the trauma bond has been broken?
* Can you please give me a really detailed example of mirroring? I feel like the narcissist in my life is just copying my identity but I am not sure.
* One of the ways that my narcissistic wife dominates me is by starting an argument and blocking me before I can get my point across. It makes me go crazy every time and I am tired of her having so much control over me. What are some ways that I can validate myself in those situations so I don't fall for her baiting tactics?Conor is a senior psychotherapist specializing in trauma and attachment at Psyche Therapy Centre, and a trainer and consultant at the Attachment and Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing (ATTCH).
Conor is a passionate person who is focused on helping people heal from the negative experiences in life, and has vast experience within the helping profession in a variety of roles across the U.K. and Canada.  
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

16. Unpacking Narcissism With Dr K-P

In this episode Dr. Karen Kuemerle-Pinillos, a PhD Level Clinician and Licensed Clinical Social Worker, will answer five questions from our Community:
* Is it possible for a narcissist to be trauma bonded to a narcissist. If so, are those types of trauma bonds different from the trauma bond a non-narcissistic person develops for his/her abuser? I ask because my narcissistic brother seems to be trauma bonded to our narcissistic father. He grew up as the golden child and has always sought out our father’s approval despite the abuse he is experiencing.
* Throughout my childhood my narcissistic mother had probably 20-30 boyfriends who were always "the one". A few months in she would find a reason to cut ties with them and then move on to the next partner almost immediately. How are narcissists able to move on so quickly and why do they do it?
* I believe that there are many healthy relationships that have an intense start that could be considered love bombing. Obviously, those days don’t last forever, but they don’t end in the same way that the love bombing phase in narcissistic relationships do. How does the love bombing phase end in a narcissistic relationship? What are some of the signs of forthcoming abuse that we can watch out for?
* I was in a physically abusive relationship for nine years but I can’t figure out exactly when the abuse went from psychological to physical. What are some signs that I could have looked out for that would have helped me see that the abuse was becoming more and more violent?
* I have been the scapegoat in my family for my entire life. I have been able to go Low Contact for the past 3 years and it has helped a lot but I struggle with self-esteem issues every day. I think it would help if I could just understand WHY I was the scapegoat. Why did they choose me to be their emotional punching bag?Dr. Karen Kuemerle-Pinillos is a bilingual-bicultural, Spanish-English, PhD Level Clinician, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), researcher, advocate, and coach. She has had the privilege to be in the mental health field for 21 years serving individuals, couples, and families in different settings such as inpatient treatment, intensive outpatient substance abuse treatment, intensive at home family therapy, outpatient individual, and couples therapy. She is currently serving individuals, couples, and families in her private practice.
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

14. Unpacking Narcissism With Dr Erin

In this episode Dr Erin will answer four questions from our community:
* I am going to be getting a restraining order on my narcissistic ex. What are five things that I should know about narcissistic behavior to prepare myself for this?
* When the narcissist blocks me, it triggers my fears of abandonment and I feel like I am going crazy. What are a few things that I can do to overcome this fear that I have?
* I have been struggling to find a therapist who understands narcissistic abuse. What are some questions I can ask a therapist in the initial meeting to figure out if it is going to be a good fit for me?
* I want to distance myself from my narcissistic mother but guilt and shame are holding me back. I was the “helper child” for most of my life so I feel responsible for her well-being but she is destroying my physical and mental health. How can I overcome these feelings and move forward in life?
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com