Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

34. Narcissism and Shame With Brenda Stephens

Do you know what is the difference between shame and guilt? (04:15)Do you want to know if narcissists feel shame? (05:53)Are you interested in learning about how narcissists cope with their feelings of shame? (09:22)Are you wondering if narcissists are capable of learning to process their feelings of shame? (11:57)Do you want to know where the shame that narcissists have comes from? (21:33)If any of these questions interest you then this episode is for you because Brenda will be discussing these topics in our show today and at the end of the show she will also explain the reason that addressing shame is important for your mental health and relationships (24:48). Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Brenda StephensBrenda Stephens MS, LPCC is a group practice owner in San Diego, CA where she and her colleagues provide individual and group therapy to those who have been impacted by a relationship with a narcissist. Brenda uses a thorough understanding of PTSD and Complex PTSD along with EMDR and Parts Work (IFS) to help clients understand, and recover from the lasting complications of being in a relationship with a narcissist.
Resources and References
Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter’s Guide by Brenda Stephens
The Narcissism Recover Workbook: Skills for Healing from Emotional Abuse by Brenda Stephens
Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw
Facing the Shame: Families in Recovery by Fossum and Mason
Suggested ReadingsDo Narcissists Ever Feel Ashamed?

33. Narcissistic Abuse and Healing With Dr. Natalie Jones

Are you wondering how should you start your healing journey? (02:32)Are you wondering if you will ever fully heal from narcissistic abuse? (07:42)Do you want to learn how to start healing even if you are still in the abusive environment? (24:42)Do you feel guilty for moving on and “leaving” your narcissistic family of origin behind? (28:41)Do you know why some abusers have such a strong negative reaction to seeing the person they abused moving on and thriving? (31:12)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Dr. Natalie Jones will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. Natalie JonesDr. Jones is a licensed psychotherapist in California. Dr Jones has years of experience of helping women heal from narcissistic abuse. She has also spent several years providing therapy and assessment services to both victims of domestic violence and criminal offenders in a variety of settings including prison, hospitals, rehabilitation facilities and domestic violence shelters. ResourcesGuide to Reconnecting With Your Core Values
Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change by Robin Norwood
The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships by Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut by Dr. Sherrie Campbell
But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath by Dr. Sherrie Campbell
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud 
The Better Boundaries Workbook: A CBT-Based Program to Help You Set Limits, Express Your Needs, and Create Healthy Relationships by Sharon Martin MSW LCSW
The Self-Love Workbook: A Life-Changing Guide to Boost Self-Esteem, Recognize Your Worth and Find Genuine Happiness by Dr. Shainna Ali
Suggested Readings10 Ways to Grow as a Person After Narcissistic Abuse
10 Ways to Love Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse

32. All About Gaslighting With Dr. K-P

Are you unsure what exactly gaslighting is? If so, this episode is for you because Dr. KP is going to guide you through five different scenarios and explain why they are examples of gaslighting. Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. K-PDr. Karen Kuemerle-Pinillos is a bilingual-bicultural, Spanish-English, PhD Level Clinician, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), researcher, advocate, and coach. She has had the privilege to be in the mental health field for 21 years serving individuals, couples, and families in different settings such as inpatient treatment, intensive outpatient substance abuse treatment, intensive at home family therapy, outpatient individual, and couples therapy. She is currently serving individuals, couples, and families in her private practice.ResourcesJoin our free Facebook support group!
A Complete Guide to the Six Types of Gaslighting
Suggested ReadingsWhy Do Narcissists Gaslight?
How to Deal With Gaslighting
119 of the Most Common Gaslighting Phrases That You Need to Know!
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

31. Unpacking Narcissism With Karina Ramdath

Are you struggling with the feelings of being hurt because the narcissist moved on way too quickly to the new supply? (02:50)Are you wondering if you should call out the narcissistic person in your life one more time? (11:54)Do you have someone in your life who is important to you, is in an abusive relationship and you are not sure how to best support them? (23:55)Do you have an overwhelming urge to fix relationships with unavailable, toxic, and narcissistic people? (29:19)Are you wondering what should you prepare yourself for when you are finally moving on from a narcissistic, abusive and controlling person? (36:12)If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Karina will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Karina RamdathKarina Ramdath is a compassionate, skilled therapist, who works with survivors of childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and other complex mental health concerns. Karina’s professional focus is to support people by validating their experiences and acknowledging their resilience.ResourcesJoin our free Facebook support group!Suggested ReadingsWhy Does the Narcissist Look So Happy With Their New Supply?
What Happens If You Confront a Narcissist With the Truth?
How to Support Someone In a Narcissistic Relationship
Can You Fix a Marriage With a Narcissist?
Will a Narcissist Let You Move On?

30. Unpacking Narcissism With Lucianne Gerrard

Are you wondering how you can start building trust for yourself after being gaslighted? (02:40)Do you know what are cognitive distortions and how important it is to be aware go them when managing self-doubting thoughts? (04:28)Do you know why do narcissists disrespect boundaries? (20:12)Do you know what causes narcissistic injuries? (29:21)Are you wondering if narcissists are incapable of being intimate or if their intimacy avoidance is just manipulation? (37:03) Are you wondering should you warn the narcissist's new supply? (46:25)If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Lucianne will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Lucianne GerrardRaised by a strict, narcissistic mother, Lucianne Gerrard was trained to always put her mother first, then everyone else second, and never think about herself or her own needs (because that was selfish). With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.Links & ResourcesBecome an Unfilteredd Survey Participant
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Learn more about cognitive distortions. 
Suggested Readings10 Ways to Trust Yourself After Experiencing Narcissistic Abuse
Why Do Narcissists Disrespect Boundaries?
Do Narcissists Enjoy Intimacy?
Should You Warn the Narcissist's New Supply?

29. Unpacking Narcissism With Dr. Khadijah Cyril

Are you wondering what is the best way to release negative emotions or deal with them after narcissistic baiting? (02:23)Do you know what are some of the things that you should never do or say when trying to support someone in a narcissistic relationship? (08:26)Are you wondering how you can work towards becoming more comfortable protecting yourself with boundaries? (12:42)Do you know why are narcissists attracted to empaths? (19:10)Do you know why do narcissists have fragile egos? (27:57)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Dr. Khadijah Cyril will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. Khadijah CyrilDr. Khadijah Cyril, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist with her own private practice who services children, teenagers, and young adults in New York City and Connecticut. Dr. Cyril has specific expertise in providing evidence-based treatments such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). She services individuals who experience anxiety, depression, complex trauma, and personality disorders.ResourcesFree guide to the six types of narcissistic baitingSuggested Readings
How Are Narcissists Made?
How Does a Narcissist Act In a Relationship?

28. Overcoming Abusive Relationship With Emma Sheldon

Do you know how mindfulness exercises can help you deal with the flashbacks of the abuse? (02:44)Do you know what are 5-10 things that you can do to rebuild your self-esteem? (06:48)Are you wondering what are some boundaries that you can set with new people in your life to make sure you don't rush into the relationship and miss the red flags of abuse? (15:45)Do you know what is Somatic Experiencing and how it can help people who have experienced abusive relationships? (21:40)Are you wondering what are some techniques that you can use to overcome anxiety? (29:14)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Emma Sheldon will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Emma SheldonEmma Sheldon is a Holistic and Integrative Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor. She believes that everyone has the capacity to heal through building a deep authentic relationship with the self and others. She uses a Person-centered, Trauma-Informed approach that is tailored to the unique needs of each individual.ResourcesFree guide for setting boundaries with a narcissistSuggested Readings10 Ways to Build Self-Esteem After Narcissistic Abuse

27. Unpacking Narcissism With Dr Brooke White

Do you know why do narcissists seek out a relationship if they don’t have any intention of making it last? (02:50)Do you know what makes it impossible for victims of narcissistic abuse to confront narcissists about their behavior? (11:05)Are you wondering how, as an empath, you should deal with situations where the narcissist in your life takes advantaged of your empathetic traits? (18:50)Do you know how trauma can cause people to develop narcissistic traits? (28:25)Are you wondering why do narcissistic relationships last for so long? (33:47)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Dr. Brooke White will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. WhiteDr White is the owner of Full Circle Health and Wellness, LLC. She specializes in the treatment of trauma/PTSD (posttraumatic stress disorder), anxiety and stress. She primarily utilizes cognitive/behavioral interventions with an emphasis on mindfulness and acceptance based approaches. She works with individuals from age 6 on, including adults of all ages.Suggested ReadingsWhat Do Narcissists Want In a Relationship?
What Happens If You Confront a Narcissist With the Truth?
Do Empaths Attract Narcissists or Do Narcissists Attract Empaths? 

26. How to Overcome Abuse With Morella Devost

Do you know how mindfulness can help people who have suffered emotional and/or physical abuse overcome their trauma? (02:37)Are you wondering what are a few things that you can do right now that will help you overcome trauma after sexual abuse? (21:55)Are you wondering if you have to forgive your parents for the emotional abuse they put you through? (37:26)Are you wondering how to deal with being super anxious and self-conscious when meeting new people? (47:02)Are you wondering what techniques you should use to manage self-doubt? (1:01:36)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Morella Devost will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Morella DevostMorella has two Masters Degrees in Counseling from Columbia University. She is also a Clinical Hypnotherapist, an NLP Master, an EFT Practitioner, and Reiki Master. Since 2006 she has helped her clients transform physical and emotional pain into their greatest source of personal power. Morella has personally spent more than 20 years on the journey that brought her from feeling sick and broken, to increasingly thriving in her life. Through that journey, she acquired numerous degrees and certifications that helped her personally and also equipped her to help her clients in the same way.Links & Resources
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine
In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter A. Levine
Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of Your Body by Peter A. Levine
Join Morella's Living With Presence Meditation Club
Suggested Readings & Related Podcast Episodes10 Ways to Grow as a Person After Narcissistic Abuse
10 Simple Steps for Finding Happiness After Narcissistic Abuse
28. Overcoming Abusive Relationship With Emma Sheldon

25. Unpacking Narcissism With Dr Daksha Hirani

Do you know how are narcissists made? (03:30)Are you wondering how do narcissists find our insecurities? (16:50)Are you wondering what should you do if your therapist is breaking confidentiality? (21:37)Do you know what types of people attract narcissists? (23:55)Are you wondering if you should try to explain narcissism to your non-narcissistic parent who is the biggest enabler of your narcissistic parent? (31:12)Are you wondering how to find other sources of happiness in your life after experiencing an intense love bombing phase? (38:15)Are you wondering what should you do if the narcissist in your life is nice to everyone else (like your family) but abusive with you? (53:50)Are you wondering how to deal with narcissist enablers? (57:50)Do you know what are some narcissistic patterns that you should watch out for on social media? (1:00:19)Do you know how to tell a mental health professional is narcissistic? (1:04:23)If any of these questions interest you, then this episode is for you because Dr. Daksha Hirani will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. Daksha HiraniDr Daksha Hirani obtained her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Royal Holloway, University of London and worked for the National Health Service for over 10 years before going into full time private practice. She has over 25 years’ experience of working with adult mental health and trauma. She feels passionately about helping victims of Narcissistic Abuse and this has been the focus of her work for the past 7 years. Links & ResourcesDr Daksha has her own healing program for survivors of narcissistic abuse.Suggested ReadingsHow Are Narcissists Made?
How to Explain Narcissism to Others
What Are the Red Flags of Dating a Narcissist?