Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

44. Questions About Gaslighting, Feeling of Incompetency, and Cognitive Dissonance With Brenda Stephens

Do you want to know how you can protect your reality from gaslighting? (02:25)Do you want to know how to overcome feelings of incompetency after being gaslighted? (07:08)Do you want to learn about different ways you can stop taking responsibility for the behavior of others? (18:11)Do you want to learn more about cognitive dissonance? (22:16)If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Brenda Stephens will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Brenda StephensBrenda Stephens MS, LPCC is a group practice owner in San Diego, CA where she and her colleagues provide individual and group therapy to those who have been impacted by a relationship with a narcissist. Brenda uses a thorough understanding of PTSD and Complex PTSD along with EMDR and Parts Work (IFS) to help clients understand, and recover from the lasting complications of being in a relationship with a narcissist.Resources
Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter’s Guide by Brenda Stephens
The Narcissism Recover Workbook: Skills for Healing from Emotional Abuse by Brenda Stephens
A Complete Guide to the Six Types of Gaslighting
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Suggested Readings and Podcast Episodes
How to Deal With Gaslighting
32. All About Gaslighting With Dr. K-P
10 Ways to Grow as a Person After Narcissistic Abuse
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

43. Self-Gaslighting, Isolation, and Narcissists Who Self-Victimize With Psychotherapist Heather Kent

Do you feel like you have to do everything "right" to stay safe in your relationship? (02:26)Are you uncomfortable prioritizing your own well-being over your abusers? (08:14)Do you want to know the most common signs that you are being isolated by an abusive person? (15:52)Do want to learn more about the dynamics of healthy relationships? (21:00)Do you want to know how you can stop feeling guilty for standing up for yourself? (29:15)If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Heather Kent will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Heather KentHeather Kent is a Registered Psychotherapist with a background in trauma assessment and clinical treatment. She is the two-time bestselling author of the books Heal from Your Narcissist Ex and I Left My Toxic Relationship – Now What? Much of her professional practice is focused on helping clients through the process of recovering from unresolved trauma and PTSD. Having survived her own journey through PTSD, Heather soon came to realize that many other people find themselves in the same situation, which leaves them feeling broken, ashamed, and paralyzed by fear.Links & Resources
Heal from Your Narcissistic Ex by Heather Kent (free ebook)
I Left My Toxic Relationship - Now What? by Heather Kent (free ebook)
The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive by Kristin Neff PhD and Christopher Germer PhD
Suggested Readings5 Ways That Narcissists Isolate You
How Do Narcissists Make You Feel Guilty?
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

42. Spotting the Narcissist in the Very Beginning, Coping With Discard and Narcissism in Groups With Dr. Daksha Hirani

Do you want to know the narcissistic characteristics and traits that you should watch out for when meeting someone for the first time? (02:21)Do you want to know how to cope when a narcissist discards you? (14:30)Are you interested in learning more about narcissistic dynamics in a group setting? (33:14)If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Dr. Daksha Hirani will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. Daksha HiraniDr Daksha Hirani obtained her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Royal Holloway, University of London and worked for the National Health Service for over 10 years before going into full time private practice. She has over 25 years’ experience of working with adult mental health and trauma. She feels passionately about helping victims of Narcissistic Abuse and this has been the focus of her work for the past 7 years. Links & ResourcesDr Daksha has her own healing program for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Suggested Readings6 Reasons a Narcissist Will Come Back After Discarding You
What Are the Red Flags of Dating a Narcissist?
What Are the Traits of a Covert Narcissist?
What Are the Traits of a Grandiose Narcissist?
How Do You Respond to a Narcissist’s Discard

41. Abusive Relationships and Inner Child Healing With Dr. Denise Renye

Do you want to know how an abusive childhood can cause someone to stay in an abusive relationship for a long time? (02:47)Do you want to know what you can do every day to build self-esteem even if you are in an emotionally abusive environment? (15:40)Do you want to know why other people enable abusive people? (35:53)Do you want to know how healing our inner child and past trauma can protect us from future abusive relationships? (44:31)Do you want to know when a sense of entitlement becomes a warning sign for abuse? (01:00:00)If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Dr. Denise Renye will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. DeniseDr. Renye has been offering direct care services to individuals, families, couples and groups for over 2 decades. She has a friendly, down-to-earth and professional approach that allows space for you to be at ease when talking about sensitive subjects. She has specialized training and has worked directly with people in the areas of sexuality, relationships, states of consciousness, psychedelic integration and intimacy.Links & ResourcesDr. Denise Renye's articles:How to Befriend Your Inner Child
Be the Parent Your Inner Child(ren) Needs
The Stages of Inner Child Healing
How Inner Child Exploration Leads to More Creativity
How do Sexual Freedom and the Inner Child Relate to Each Other?
Are Things Simpler When You’re a Child?
Do You Wish You Could Turn Back the Clock?
Watching Your Parents Grandparent
Other resources:
Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhDSuggested Readings10 Ways to Build Self-Esteem After Narcissistic Abuse

40. Healthy Relationships, Narcissistic Relationships and Love Bombing With Dr. Daksha Hirani

Do you want to know the difference between healthy and narcissistic relationships? (02:45)Do you want to know the best way that you can reject a narcissist? (17:23)Do you want to learn more about love bombing? (21:58)Are you wondering how you can tell if a narcissist is love bombing you? (25:46)Do you want to know the difference between a fiery connection with an emotionally safe person and the love bombing phase with a narcissist? (28:38)Do you want to learn about some boundaries that you can set with yourself to protect yourself from love bombing? (33:29)Do you want to know how love bombing affects your perception on healthy relationships? (44:33)If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Dr. Daksha Hirani will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. Daksha HiraniDr Daksha Hirani obtained her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Royal Holloway, University of London and worked for the National Health Service for over 10 years before going into full time private practice. She has over 25 years’ experience of working with adult mental health and trauma. She feels passionately about helping victims of Narcissistic Abuse and this has been the focus of her work for the past 7 years. Links & ResourcesDr Daksha has her own healing program for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Suggested ReadingsHow to Deal With a Love Bomber
Why Is Love Bombing a Red Flag?
How to Protect Yourself From Love Bombing

39. Unpacking Narcissism With Dr. Natalie Feinblatt

Do you know why people who gaslight tell blatant lies? (02:25)Are you wondering how you can tell if someone is genuinely taking responsibility for their actions? (04:33)Do you want to know the difference between true empathy and empathy that is being used to gaslight you? (08:58)Are you wondering how you can protect yourself from someone's projections? (13:56)Would you like to learn how to deal with a person who won't let you speak during a conflict? (24:45)If you can relate to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Dr. Natalie Feinblatt will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. Natalie FeinblattDr. Natalie Feinblatt is a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, California. Her main specialties are helping people heal from addictions and trauma. A subset of her trauma work is assisting those who have been in cults, high demand groups, abusive churches, and other situations involving coercive control and/or narcissistic abuse. Dr. Feinblatt can use EMDR and/or Brainspotting in her trauma work with clients.Suggested ReadingsWhy Do Narcissists Gaslight?
How Do You Know When a Narcissist Is Projecting?

38. Blame-Shifting, Self-Doubt, and Validating Yourself With Registered Counselor Lucianne Gerrard

Are you wondering how you should respond to a narcissist who is constantly blaming you? (02:28)Are you unsure about whether or not the narcissist in your life is abusive? (23:27)Would you like to learn how you can validate your own thoughts, feelings, and emotions? (41:29)Do you know how to overcome emotional numbness? (01:02:14)If you can relate to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Lucianne will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Counselor Lucianne GerrardLucianne Gerrard is a Registered Counselor and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.ResourcesHow to Reconnect With Your Core Values Guide
Mindfulness Guide
Suggested Readings10 Ways to Trust Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse

37. Unpacking Narcissism With Psychotherapist Nick Kerry

Do you know why narcissists are attracted to codependents? (02:18)Are you wondering if you have a narcissistic sibling? (08:18)Do you want to to know how you can protect your child’s development from their narcissistic parent? (13:12)Do you know what a narcissistic injury is and why it is so destabilizing for a narcissist? (25:47)Do you know why it is so common for a codependent to stay in a narcissistic relationship for so long? (41:00)If you can relate to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Nick Kerry will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Nick KerryNick Kerry is a qualified psychotherapist who specializes in narcissistic/codependent relationships. Over the last ten years, he has specialized in psychological support for those experiencing narcissistic abuse. He is the founder and director of Narc & Co specialist mentoring service for narcissistic abuse. ResourcesNarc & Co’s Mentoring Service
Become an Unfilteredd Survey Participant
Suggested ReadingsWhat Causes the Biggest Narcissistic Injuries?
What Is a Codependent In a Narcissistic Relationship?
How Do Narcissists Treat Their Siblings?

36. Unpacking Narcissism With Angela Avery

Are you wondering how to spot a flying monkey and if they ever see the truth? (02:28)Do you know why narcissists are so abusive towards their scapegoats? (10:02)Have you ever been accused of projecting your stuff onto others and has that made you question if you really do that? (13:40)Do you know what the difference is between closure in a healthy relationship and closure in a narcissistic relationship? (17:43)Do you feel like you want to confront the narcissist in your life about the abuse so you can get closure? (21:35)If any of these questions interest you then this episode is for you because Angela Avery will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Angela AveryAngela Avery, LPC, NCC, CCATP is a board certified Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery, high conflict divorce and teenage girl experiences. As a mother, and a narcissistic abuse survivor, she has first-hand knowledge of the toll it takes on a person’s mental, physical and spiritual well-being. She believes healing is possible and hopes to be a truth-teller, opportunity-seeker and life-rebuilder on your journey towards the future.ResourcesThree Types of Flying Monkeys Guide
Surviving Divorce: A Therapist's Step by Step Guide by Angela Avery 
Suggested ReadingsHow to Spot a Flying Monkey
Do Flying Monkeys Ever See the Truth?
Why Do Narcissists Need a Scapegoat?
Can You Get Closure From a Narcissist?

35. All About Future Faking With Therapist and Counselor Nicki Paull

Are you dating someone who exhibits future faking behavior and are unsure how to proceed? (02:27)Are you wondering if all future fakers are narcissists? (08:05)Do you know how to respond to future faking behavior? (08:40)Are you wondering why narcissists future fake? (14:32)Are you beating yourself up for believing the future fake? (17:33)Do you want to know why future faking is so damaging? (21:42)If any of these questions interest you then this episode is for you because Nicki Paull will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Nicki PaullNicki Paull is an Australian Counsellor with expertise in Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome recovery. She is a qualified lived experience therapist, an author, blogger and podcaster on the subject of Narcissistic Psychological/Emotional Abuse Recovery within the context of Third Wave psychology. That is, the intersection of Western and Buddhist psychological interventions that include Mindfulness, Compassion and/or Solution Focused Therapies.Suggested ReadingsHow to Respond to Future Faking
What Is Future Faking And Why Do Narcissists Do It?