Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

54. Never Be Manipulated Again: Just Enough, Blaming, Public Humiliation, Should-ing With Dr. Maya Kaye

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, you will learn how to protect yourself from the following manipulation tactics:Just enough (02:30)
Blaming (16:50)
Public Humiliation (27:22)
Should-ing (37:53)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Dr. Maya KayeThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Dr. Maya Kaye is a psychotherapist, researcher, author, and professor. She is a neuroscience-informed, compassion-focused psychotherapist, and she combines a variety of psychodynamic and mind-body modalities that promote mind, brain, and body regulation. She works with emerging adults, college and graduate students experiencing anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship issues, and difficulties adjusting to life stressors.ResourcesSetting Boundaries With a Narcissist GuideSuggested ReadingsHow to Gray Rock a Narcissist (3 Simple Steps)
How to Set Boundaries With a Narcissist
Why Do Narcissists Disrespect Boundaries?
What Are Some Boundaries You Can Set With a Narcissist?
Suggested Podcast Episodes38. Blame-Shifting, Self-Doubt, and Validating Yourself With Registered Counselor Lucianne GerrardPodcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

53. Never Be Manipulated Again: Conversation Domination, Unsolicited and Sneaky Advice, Pity, and Ordering With Psychotherapist Fabian Wander

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, you will learn how to protect yourself from the following manipulation tactics:Conversation Domination (02:20)
Unsolicited Advice (16:12)
Sneaky Advice (23:43)
Pity (30:42)
Ordering (34:33)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Fabian WanderThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Mr. Fabián Sergio Wander is the Director of the Health and Wellness Office at Hostos Community College and also founder of Wander Counseling, a mental health practice that incorporates Walk and Talk therapy in addition to the traditional office based treatment approach. He has been working as a Social Worker for over 17 years and is licensed in the State of New York.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested ReadingsHow to Gray Rock a Narcissist (3 Simple Steps)
How to Set Boundaries With a Narcissist
Why Do Narcissists Disrespect Boundaries?
What Are Some Boundaries You Can Set With a Narcissist?
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

52. Never Be Manipulated Again: Punishment, Negative Predictions, Slippery Slope, Bribery, and Spiritual Legalism With Psychotherapist Andre O´Donnell

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, you will learn how to protect yourself from the following manipulation tactics:Punishment (02:21)
Negative Predictions (06:13)
Slippery Slope (11:22)
Bribery (18:45)
Spiritual Legalism (25:43)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Andre O'DonnellThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Andre O'Donnell is a licensed psychotherapist in Washington State. Andre specializes in helping people heal from a vast range of traumas, including narcissistic and sociopathic abuse, religious upbringing, complicated family and relationship dynamics, infidelity, and complex grief. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, Andre fully understands the complexity of abuse and knows that trauma manifests in many shapes and forms.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested ReadingsHow to Gray Rock a Narcissist (3 Simple Steps)
How to Set Boundaries With a Narcissist
Why Do Narcissists Disrespect Boundaries?
What Are Some Boundaries You Can Set With a Narcissist?
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

51. Overcoming Shame, Fear of Being Alone, Irritability, Fatigue, and Flashbacks With Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we will focus on five topics related to healing from narcissistic abuse:How to overcome shame (02:27)
Fear of being alone (24:31)
Healthy coping mechanisms for irritability (33:32)
Fatigue (40:49)
Managing CPTSD and PTSD flashbacks (47:12)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Dr. Stephanie KriesbergThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg is a clinical psychologist with over 25 years of experience in the field, and one of her specialty areas is helping adults with narcissistic parents lead healthier, and happier lives. She is also the author of the book "Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve". Resources"Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve"Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

50. Never Be Manipulated Again: Home Court, Time Dominance, Making You Wait, Putting You on the Spot, Catastrophizing With Dr. Taylor Damiani

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, you will learn how to protect yourself from the following manipulation tactics:Home Court (02:26)
Time Dominance (08:04)
Making You Wait (13:24)
Putting You on the Spot (16:59)
Catastrophizing (30:02)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Dr. Taylor DamianiThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Dr. Taylor is a coach and licensed psychologist based in California. She helps adult children of narcissistic parents stop walking on eggshells and step into their power and purpose. Her clients are acutely perceptive of others’ needs, but struggle to put themselves first. Dr. Taylor Damiani helps them come home to themselves and grow in self-love, acceptance and worth.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested ReadingsHow to Set Boundaries With a Narcissist
Why Do Narcissists Disrespect Boundaries?
What Are Some Boundaries You Can Set With a Narcissist?
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

49. How to Emotionally Detach From the Narcissist Step 1

In this series, we'll be delving deep into the topic of emotional detachment, and how it can help us break free from the toxic dynamics of a narcissistic relationship.In this episode, we'll be shining a light on one of the most fundamental questions when it comes to emotionally detaching from a narcissist: what is it that we're really seeking from them? Whether it's validation, love, or simply the hope of change, understanding our deepest desires and needs can be a crucial step towards emotionally detaching from the narcissist and healing.So sit back, grab a cup of tea, and get ready to take the first step towards emotionally detaching from the narcissist. This is the Step 1 of the series how to emotionally detach from the narcissist.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Lucianne GerrardLucianne Gerrard is a Registered Counselor and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. With her foundation of personal experience of narcissistic abuse in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.
Resources & References:
Bond, Sharon B. PhD; Bond, Michael MD. Attachment Styles and Violence Within Couples. The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease 192(12):p 857-863, December 2004.
Ronningstam, Elsa PhD. Narcissistic Personality Disorder: A Clinical Perspective. Journal of Psychiatric Practice 17(2):p 89-99, March 2011.
Gabbard, G. O. (1998). Transference and countertransference in the treatment of narcissistic patients. In E. F. Ronningstam (Ed.), Disorders of narcissism: Diagnostic, clinical, and empirical implications (pp. 125–145). American Psychiatric Association.
Suggested ReadingsTrauma Bonding ArchivePodcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

48. Recognizing and Pushing Back Against Gaslighting With Psychologist Jebin Philip

Do you want to know why having an urge to record a conversation with someone is a sign of a potentially abusive relationship? (02:27)Do you know how to hold onto your reality when you know that someone is gaslighting you? (06:20)Do you want to know how to start trusting yourself again after being gaslighted into believing that you are irrational and crazy? (17:20)Does the abusive person in your life call you sensitive for wanting to set boundaries? (32:35)Do you get anxious around other people because of the abuse that you experienced? (55:43)If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Jebin will be discussing these topics in our show today.Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Jebin PhilipJebin Thomas Philip is a psychologist who completed his Masters in Counseling Psychology from Christ (deemed to be University), Bangalore, India. He has been actively working in the field of psychology over the past 6 years.Jebin Philip has experience working with clients with clinical and non clinical issues such as Depression, Anxiety, OCD, Bipolar Disorder, Stress Management, Work Life Balance, Relationships (Marital Counseling) etc. Jebin Philip believes in the importance of awareness and right understanding of Mental Health. 
Resources & References:
The Six Types of Gaslighting Guide
Extinction bursts in rats trained to self-administer nicotine or food in 1-h daily sessions
Suggested ReadingsHow to Deal With Gaslighting
Why Does Gaslighting Work?
How to Regain Your Sanity After Being Gaslighted? (Helpful Tips From Survivors)
Why Do Narcissists Gaslight?
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

47. Understanding, Refinding, and Rebuilding Our Sense of Self After Abuse

Do you want to learn about the different parts of the self? (02:43)Do you want to know the signs that someone has lost their identity in a relationship? (07:39)Do you want to know why abusive relationships cause us to lose our identity? (15:40)Do you want to learn how to hold onto your identity in an abusive relationship? (18:03)Do you want to learn how to rebuild your sense of self after an abusive relationship? (20:45)If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you because Dennae will be discussing these topics in our show today. In this episode there is also a detailed walk-through of a journaling exercise that can help you to rebuild your sense of self (25:10). Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.net
Meet Dennaé Dumas
Dennaé Dumas is a Licensed Master Social Worker, who is licensed in the states of New York and New Jersey. Dennaé is a culturally competent, trauma-informed psychotherapist who believes in a collaborative therapeutic relationship. She works with individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships using a holistic approach to psychological and emotional wellness. Her clinical methods pull from many treatment modalities including CBT, DBT, IFS, EFT, IMAGO, Gottman Method, mindfulness, trauma-informed practices, somatic treatments, and psychodynamic psychotherapy to offer the best care possible for her clients. ResourcesHow to Reconnect With Your Core Values GuideSuggested Readings10 Ways to Love Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse
10 Simple Steps for Finding Happiness After Narcissistic Abuse
10 Ways to Grow as a Person After Narcissistic Abuse
10 Ways to Build Self-Esteem After Narcissistic Abuse
10 Ways to Trust Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

46. Never Be Manipulated Again: Public Sharing, Crossing Boundaries, Non-consensual Recording, Petty Theft, Fast-Talking

In this episode, you will learn how to protect yourself from the following manipulation tactics. Public Sharing (03:37)When someone shares your personal information in a public setting, it is known as public sharing.Crossing Boundaries (11:58)When someone disrespects your personal boundaries that are either implied or made explicitly clear, it is known as crossing boundaries.Non-Consensual Recording (18:33)Non-consensual recording is a form of privacy invasion and it occurs when someone captures recording or takes pictures of you and/or your personal belongings without your permission.Petty Theft (21:37)Petty theft refers to a criminal act in which property belonging to another is taken without that person’s consent.Fast Talking (24:57)When someone purposely overwhelms you with a rapid-fire series of questions, accusations, and/or assertions without giving you a chance to respond or even process everything that they are saying, it is a manipulation tactic called fast talking.If you want to know how to protect yourself from these manipulation tactics, then this episode is for you because Dr. KP will be giving her advice how to deal with a person who is using these manipulation tactics. Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. K-PDr. Karen Kuemerle-Pinillos is a bilingual-bicultural, Spanish-English, PhD Level Clinician, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), researcher, advocate, and coach. She has had the privilege to be in the mental health field for 21 years serving individuals, couples, and families in different settings such as inpatient treatment, intensive outpatient substance abuse treatment, intensive at home family therapy, outpatient individual, and couples therapy. She is currently serving individuals, couples, and families in her private practice.ResourcesSetting Boundaries With a Narcissist GuideSuggested ReadingsHow to Set Boundaries With a Narcissist
Why Do Narcissists Disrespect Boundaries?
What Are Some Boundaries You Can Set With a Narcissist?
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

45. Never Be Manipulated Again: Abusing Truisms, Comparing, Future Faking, Monitoring, and Sarcasm

In this episode, you will learn how to protect yourself from the following manipulation tactics. Abusing Truisms (03:30)Abusing Truisms occur when abusive/manipulative people make general statements about life that are hard to dispute to their advantage.Comparing (08:57)Comparing is when an abusive/manipulative person makes a comparison that is hurtful, shaming, or controlling of you.Future Faking (14:11)Future faking is a manipulation tactic that occurs when an abusive/manipulative person makes a false promise for the future to get what they want in the present.Monitoring (21:13)Monitoring is when an abusive/manipulative person monitors your activity, location, or behavior.Sarcasm (24:37)Sarcasm is when someone says the opposite of what they actually mean in an effort to criticize or poke fun.If you want to know how to protect yourself from these manipulation tactics, then this episode is for you because Dr. Daksha Hirani will be giving her advice how to deal with a person who is using these manipulation tactics. Do you have a question that you want answered on the podcast? Are you interested coming to the show as a guest? Do you want to leave feedback? Reach us at podcast@unfilteredd.netMeet Dr. Daksha HiraniDr Daksha Hirani obtained her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Royal Holloway, University of London and worked for the National Health Service for over 10 years before going into full time private practice. She has over 25 years’ experience of working with adult mental health and trauma. She feels passionately about helping victims of Narcissistic Abuse and this has been the focus of her work for the past 7 years. Links & ResourcesDr Daksha has her own healing program for survivors of narcissistic abuse. 
Suggested Readings & Podcast Episodes
How to Respond to Future Faking
35. All About Future Faking With Therapist and Counselor Nicki Paull
Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com