The Unfilteredd Podcast

How to Overcome Helplessness with Cindy Guerrero, LCSW (Ep 124)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the helplessness that narcissistic abuse causes:.
Validate Your Feelings (00:50)
“What Is This Showing Me About Me?” (07:16)
Setting Boundaries (13:36)
How Are You Holding Onto the Person, Relationship, or the Situation? (20:24)
Who Are You? What Do You Like? What Lights You Up? (25:40)
 
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More Information About the Host & Cindy Guerrero
Cindy Guerrero is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, 200hr yoga teacher, Shaman, and Reiki Master Teacher. She is a holistic healer, which means she assesses and works with individuals on the four levels - Emotional, Physical, Mental, and Energetic. Cindy provides individual, couples, family, and group therapy and works with adults and children. She specializes in working with people who experience trauma, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, anger, and chronic health conditions. She also specializes in Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and PTSD. Additionally, she is an EMDRIA-approved EMDR therapist and Licensed Clinical Supervisor for Clinical Interns entering the mental health field.
 
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5 Strategies for Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD (Ep 123)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the emotional dysregulation that narcissistic abuse causes:Proactive coping skills (01:39)
Reactive coping skills (09:05)
Top-down approach for regulation (24:32)
Bottom-up approach for regulation (34:06)
Distinguishing parts to respond more mindfully in the present (45:28)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Dr. Tanya HolthusThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Dr. Tanya Holthus is a licensed psychologist who enjoys working with a wide variety of clients and offers multiple services including therapy, coaching, and supervision. She specializes in healing trauma and helping people with many types of issues, including post-traumatic stress, attachment/connection, emotional/relational abuse, anxiety, depression, and relationship issues. She is most passionate about helping people overcome relationships involving narcissistic abuse and strengthening parent-child relationships. Dr. Holthus views things through a trauma lens and tends to weave this into all of her work. She provides psychoeducation, teaches how to navigate healthy boundaries, guides healing, and helps people gain clarity to bring peace in their life.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast Episodes5 Strategies for Overcoming Guilt with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD 
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Exploring Sibling Dynamics in Narcissistic Families with Amanda Bailey, Therapist (Ep 122)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, we focus on the complex sibling relationships within a narcissistic family dynamic: How should I approach/explain to my sibling who thinks that our family is totally healthy, that our parent is narcissistic and that our upbringing wasn't healthy? (01:06)
 How can I work through my anger and resentment towards my sibling who was the golden child in our narcissistic family of origin? (15:04)
How can I approach my sibling who has been treated differently and unfairly by our narcissistic parent (they were the scapegoat and I was the golden child) and to improve our relationship? We are now adults and do not live at home anymore but we are not that close. (19:49)
Can a sibling relationship impacted by a narcissistic parent be repaired, and what are some factors that may influence the potential for healing and growth in this situation? (25:22)
What are some factors that may indicate that the relationship with a sibling cannot be repaired? (28:20)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Amanda BaileyThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Amanda is a mental health therapist and coach who helps people heal from the effects of destructive relationships; teaching them to rebuild trust in themselves and handle difficult dynamics with confidence. She is based in Portland, Maine, but works with clients online throughout the US as well as internationally.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Readings8 Ways That Narcissists Treat Their Siblings
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Never Be Manipulated Again with Karina Ramdath, Registered Social Worker (Ep 121)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, you will learn how to protect yourself from the following manipulation tactics:Public sharing (01:23)
Crossing boundaries (11:51)
Non-consensual recording (21:43)
Petty theft (34:21)
Fast talking (42:18)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Karina RamdathThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Karina Ramdath is a compassionate, skilled therapist, who works with survivors of childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and other complex mental health concerns. Karina’s professional focus is to support people by validating their experiences and acknowledging their resilience.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast EpisodesNever Be Manipulated Again: Rewriting History, Countering, Lying, Social Circle Manipulation, Pseudomutuality with Dr. Taylor Damiani
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Guided Deep Breathing Exercise: Letting Go of Self-Doubt (Ep 120)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?This guided deep breathing exercise helps you combat the self-doubt that narcissistic abuse causes. Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the HostThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast EpisodesGuided Imagery Exercise: The Garden of Self-Discovery
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5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward the Narcissist with Ellen Biros, LCSW (Ep 119)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the anger toward the narcissist, flying monkeys and enablers:Embrace your anger (02:43)
Let go of the identity of being the wronged one or the victim (11:14)
Practice radical acceptance (17:49)
Stay away from "all or nothing" thinking (38:06)
Avoid "winner or loser" distinctions (46:58)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Ellen BirosThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Ellen is a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the assessment and treatment of individuals with personality disorders, substance abuse issues, and emotional regulation problems. Ellen has spent over 15 years helping clients identify and recover from emotional abuse and manipulation. She is the author of 'Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter’s Workbook.'Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunityOther Resources
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5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward Yourself with Ellen Biros, LCSW (Ep 118)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the anger toward yourself after narcissistic abuse:Check-in with your emotions (03:06)
The four square breathing (08:38)
Thought-stopping (20:22)
Grounding (29:38)
Self-compassion pause (35:29)
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Guided Imagery Exercise: The Garden of Self-Discovery (Ep 117)

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5 Strategies for Forgiving Yourself with Holly Herzog, Counselor (Ep 116)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to forgive yourself after narcissistic abuse:Acknowledge and accept what actually happened in the relationship (02:30)
Look at your past (05:23)
Be patient with yourself (08:17)
Release the emotions (11:27)
Learn what secure attachment looks like (17:59)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Holly HerzogThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Holly is a licensed professional counselor and she works with individuals and couples and specializes in relationship issues. She loves working with people in life transition (like a divorce or job loss) and she helps her clients cope with grief, come to terms with their new reality, and begin to dream about possibilities.Free ResourcesExercises and Tips for More Secure Attachment (Free PDF)
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5 Strategies for Overcoming Powerlessness with Jessica Hass, LCSW (Ep 115)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the powerlessness that narcissistic abuse causes:Maintain rigid boundaries (04:50)
Challenge idealization and adoration of the false self that the narcissist presents to you (16:07)
Engage in empowering activities (29:49)
Focus on your future (35:52)
Psycho-analyze yourself (45:28)
Submit a Question/Topic for This PodcastThe content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.More Information About the Host & Jessica HassThe host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.Jessica is a therapist who focuses on adults who need education and/or support to understand how emotional neglect, narcissistic abuse, and psychological/emotional abuse have affected their self-image, relationships, choices in partners and friends, and behavioral patterns. She works with clients who have experienced C-PTSD which develops in response to long-term trauma, abuse, and/or emotional neglect. She can also help those trying to figure out if they’re in a relationship with a narcissist or wanting to learn healthier boundaries to better manage their relationship, in any capacity, with loved ones demonstrating narcissistic traits.Free ResourcesJoin Our Free CommunitySuggested Podcast EpisodesDeep Dive into Your Core Beliefs with Lua Weatherdon, LCSW 
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