Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

10 Painful Lessons from Being Married to a Narcissist - Episode 1

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In this episode, Unfilteredd sits down with Chelsey Brooke Cole to dive into the 10 lessons our community members wish they had learned sooner about being married to a narcissist.
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TIMESTAMPS:
(01:08) They Withhold Intimacy and Affection
(04:48) Your Independence Threatens Them
(09:07) Your Memory Isn't Failing You
(13:42) They Exploit Your Mental Health Struggles
(19:52) They Sabotage Your Relationships
(26:19) They Turn Kindness Into a Liability
(30:06) They Take Pleasure in Your Pain
(34:53) Their Apologies Are Attacks in Disguise
(39:23) They Weaponize Your Vulnerabilities
(44:23) Loneliness Feels Different in an Abusive Relationship
 
 
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Let Go of Rescuer Syndrome with These 5 Simple Strategies (Ep 136)

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In this episode, Emily Phelps, a psychotherapist specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery, will share strategies to help you address rescuer syndrome, a struggle many survivors of narcissistic abuse face, so you can build a life that truly reflects who you want to be.
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Timestamps:
(00:02:00) Shift your mindset
(00:05:22) Become super self-aware
(00:10:15) Set boundaries
(00:16:16) Set clear goals for yourself
(00:21:55) Remember the past so you don’t repeat
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What to Do If You’re Always Anxious About Being Perfect (Ep 135)

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In this episode, Hannah Alderete, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor from New York, will explain why children of narcissistic parents may struggle with perfectionism and share strategies to help you address these tendencies.
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If You Grew Up in a Narcissistic Family and Always Feel Like You're in Trouble, Here's Why (Ep 134)

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In this episode, Mahtaab Khanjari, a Marriage and Family Therapist, will explain how the various psychological, behavioral, and physical impacts of growing up in a narcissistic family all contribute to the persistent feeling of being in trouble in adulthood.
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Here’s Why Narcissistic Abuse Isn’t Your Fault (Ep 133)

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In this episode, Monica L. Amorosi, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor from New York, will walk you through the very specific way narcissists are made to help you see why the abuse you experienced isn’t your fault.
 
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How Narcissists Weaponize Therapy: A Therapist's Warning (Ep 132)

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In this episode, Jennifer Parrella, a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor from Virginia, will explain why narcissists in therapy can be so dangerous and how you can determine whether or not the narcissist in your life is using therapy to control or manipulate you.
 
Timestamps:
(00:00:48) Why Narcissists in Therapy Can Be So Dangerous
(00:04:20) How to Tell if a Narcissist Is Using Therapy to Control and Manipulate You
 
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Therapist Reveals 9 Ways Narcissists Abuse Their Partners (Ep 131)

If you want to learn more about romantic narcissistic relationships, go here: https://unfilteredd.net/narcissistic-abuse-in-romantic-relationships/
In this episode, Monica Amorosi, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor from New York, will reveal nine different ways narcissists abuse their partners.
Timestamps:
(00:00:39) Manipulation
(00:02:05) Physical Abuse
(00:03:18) Financial Abuse
(00:04:18) Reputational Damage
(00:05:44) Sabotage
(00:06:52) Sexual Abuse
(00:08:48) Crossing Boundaries
(00:09:22) Masking and Feigning
(00:10:13) Trapping
 
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5 Ways to Overcome the Self-Doubt Narcissistic Abuse Causes (Ep 130)

If you want to learn more about healing from narcissistic abuse, go here: https://unfilteredd.net/healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/
In this episode, Alexandra Skinner Walsh, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor from Iowa with just over a decade of experience, will guide you through five strategies you can start using today to overcome the self-doubt narcissistic abuse causes.
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Timestamps:
(00:01:10) Build Your Supports
(00:08:44) Find Your Authentic Voice
(00:16:22) Recognize the Self-Doubt and Understand Its Impact
(00:24:04) Separate Confidence from Narcissism
(00:29:08) Know and Trust Yourself
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5 Ways Narcissistic Parents Act (Ep 129)

If you think one of your parents might be a narcissist, you're in the right place. In today's episode, Leanne Cameron, a therapist who has 50 years of experience with narcissistic parents in both her personal and professional life, will walk us through five behavior patterns that these types of parents typically engage in.
Timestamps:
They create a family narrative that enforces loyalty through guilt and enmeshment. (00:00:44)
They place the burden of their emotional well-being and needs on their children. (00:11:05)
They show little respect for personal boundaries, ignoring the autonomy and individuality of family members. (00:20:36)
They foster competition and insecurity within the family to enjoy the resulting drama and chaos. (00:29:59)
They present a charming persona to the public, contrasting with their behavior at home. (00:41:20)
This content is for educational purposes only and should not be used as a substitute for medical or mental health advice.
 
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How to Overcome Loss of Faith After Narcissistic Abuse With Abigail Loubser, Counselor (Ep 128)

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
In this episode, we focus on overcoming the loss of faith through five self-reflective questions:
Who and/or what did I have faith in? (00:02:10)
Do I believe that God is sovereign? (00:06:59)
Do I believe that Jesus Christ is Lord and Savior? (00:11:36)
What and why did I allow the narcissist to take away what God has given me? (00:19:24)
Do I believe evil exists? (00:29:02)
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More Information About the Host & Abigail Loubser
The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.
Abigail Loubser is a Specialist Wellness Counsellor. She has experienced personal struggles relating to silent abuse within the family, divorce, family addictions and secondary trauma associated with a crime. Abigail uses counseling techniques that are based on the Gospel of Jesus Christ, and which incorporate both strength-based interventions and narrative therapy whereby the counsellor will focus on a hopeful future for the client. 
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